Just trying to remember mine....
I have the main battery wired as per normal, to alternator/starter and earthed to chassis..
The second battery has a seperate live feed to a seerate fuse box for the accessories (fridge/radio etc) and earthed as per normal... in no way is there a high current cable coming from it, dosnt need it as it is not used for starting,,,
Trying to remember the relay set up,
I think (without checking)
I have live feed into relay form + term on main batt,
Feed out of relay onto + term on second batt,
earth relay as normal..
Then i ran the trigger wire from the ignition so when truck is running, sends charge to both batteries, for the sake of argument they are connected togeather, then when the ignition is off, the relay tigger has no feed and disconects the second batt from the main batt..
From the top of my head that is how mine is wired.......
Cheers